Men and Women

Intro - Let me say first I swear sometimes (but I will try not to as much as I can) and really am writing this how I would have said it if you were in front of me. I have also created my own terms or names for some of my definitions. Enjoy!

If someone said to me that God was having a laugh when he created Men and Women, I would have believed them because our views are so fundamentally different that it is actually funny, but not if you are the one going through crap with either gender. But since I actually believe in God and feel a sense of God I wouldn’t agree with the above, so have you ever wondered who is more complicated Men or Women?

Man – wants to sleep
Woman – need a cuddle
Man – wants food
Woman – wants dinner
Man – just want to F@*&
Woman – wants to make love
Man – trys to understand women by seeing if he can score as soon as possible
Woman – reads ladies magazines on “10 ways to keep your man”

Trust
I could go on forever, but really I want to ask, how a woman can read ladies magazine written by a woman on how to keep your man. How did she come to believe that another woman can tell more about a man? It’s simple, it’s called trust woman trust other women when it comes to talking about men not necessarily that they trust each other on other issues ( Like, is your very handsome boy friend coming over to say hello to us when you are away)

Since women believe in what I call “emotional identification trust”, they transfer that same believe to the man when they are in love with a man. Number one lesson ladies you CAN NOT DO THAT. Now this is not to say that men cannot be trusted, far from it they can but you have to make a little room for what I call the “Male Factor”

Men on the other hand trust you as long as you do not give them any reason for concern, men work on practical things not emotions. This is not to say that men are not emotional but on the contrary, I actually believe that they are as emotional as women, I will come to that later. For a man, trust is a simple and constant display of your loyalty; it is defined by what he sees regardless of what he thinks (with exceptions like, over bearing men and jealous bastards) Men do not transfer trust, they see it to believe it. And I call this “evidential trust”

So both genders can trust but in different ways therefore no gender should try and impose their version of trust on the other. Women your trust is “emotional identification trust” and men your trust is “evidential trust”. Consider this next time you are about to argue with your partner.

Emotion
while there is a school of thought that women are more emotional than men, I am of the school of thought that women seem more emotional than men because of what I call “expressive emotion” while the men have what I call “passive emotion”

Take for example, when a relationship ends the woman would have friends call over and suddenly all her friends would remember the guy was a bastard, useless and a complete idiot. They massage her emotion and tell her how great she is, they even take her out for a girls night out and continue the male bashing sections and God help the guy if she has a friend who has not been dating for a long time (you know the type, every girl has one of them). The ladies would support her through her crying and emotional roller coaster and to crown it all the same ladies still find her another man or at least approve another man, oh this is after they have vowed never again!

A man on the other hand pretends he is fine and is over it already, so his male friends don’t call him because somehow in their heads he is perfectly ok. When they come around they take him out not because he is hurting no…. no…. just for him to make up the number, at this stage the guy now begins to fuck anything he finds, pay for or just throw himself into a bottle of something because he is in denial of the hurt he is going through. All this, simply because he does not want to appear weak to the woman, for some of the lucky guys they have a rebound relationship. Now he is a real bastard!

The advantage of the female “expressive emotion” is that it works well but not the best while the “passive emotion” of the man is ultimately destructive but for the short term he will save face and plays along. But I hope that as I deal with this issue, I will help bring it to open discussion that a man is allowed to cry, feel sad, miss his girl, say sorry and still be a man. I want to challenge everyone to tell me when last you saw a man cry, yet that is one of the most powerful physical emotional display of sadness or joy

While I have identified the problem with the male emotion, the problem with the female emotion is that after all that bashing of the man it drives the woman further away from reconciliation to a man. That is why women are the best at long term rebound; she is dating Peter but thinks she is dating Patrick, so every mistake made by Patrick in the past is taken out on Peter in the present. The end result is a relationship of stress, she get confused as to why it’s happening because she really loves him but cannot explain why he does not behave in a certain way, at this stage she is beginning to doubt herself and fear sets in and then comes the common phrase “men are all the same”. That sentence is the most ignorant comment some stupid person came up with (maybe a feminist). That comment allows people to give up easily, put every man in a box and disregard a fundamental human behaviour the ability to change. Have you also noticed that comment does not sound right when used for women?

A perfect emotion......... to be continued in the next few days, let me give you time to take it in